Why Do We All Feel, So Hopelessly Lost?

Since leaving school and becoming an "adult" there has been one major reoccurring theme in my life:
 Feeling lost and misdirected. 

I knew that this was quite common amongst late teenagers, however it's only recently that I've noticed just how common it is.
It's like everyone I know is lost and confused (except the few lucky gems who have it all figured out).

No body knows what they want to do or who they want to be, so we live in this kind of dismal denial and pretend that we're happy or that we know what we're doing when we don't.
We pretend that the future doesn't scare the crap out of us but it does.
& what's even more scary is that it's not just teenagers! It's "adults" too (granted mostly young adults, but i've even seen 40 year olds who are still so helplessly misplaced).

So why?
Why are we all so depressed and stuck, and feeling like we have no idea and no direction and are just blindly stumbling through life hoping for a good outcome, regardless?

Do we have too many options? Because surely that would make us more productive and motivated?
Is it because of the uncertainty of the future? Because that's always been a thing- people from the 1800s didn't know what the hell was going to happen in the future, but they weren't as unhappy as us (granted they had a lot of other shit going on, but we won't talk about that!).

People in the 1900s didn't know what the future held, and as job prospectives opened up and equality was finally semi-established, people flourished with the new opportunities- they didn't feel lost, they were just happy to be able to earn some money.

So are we ungrateful and selfish?
Are we too demanding and do we have too many expectations on our society?
Or are we just lazy?

They say that the young people of today have so many options and opportunities and potential and they have the world at their feet, and it's true, we do.
But it's almost like we don't know what to do with the world, so close and fragile and seemingly unobtainable...
What if we go for what we think we want, but mess it up?
Wouldn't it be easier to never try, so as to never have failed and never have been hurt?

I think we all deep down, know what we want out of life, but because there are so many options, we get confused as to which direction we want to focus on and take.
We get overwhelmed by all these choices and decisions that need to be made, and we freak out that we might make the wrong one and never get a chance to re-make it.

But why are all of these people sitting around feeling sorry for themselves and letting the future and lack of decision-making scare them?
Why do we need to know what to do with our lives?
Should we not just do what makes us happy (unless it involves something illegal like murdering small children- because you can actually go to prison for that) and live day by day?
Sure it's socially acceptable and expected to think ahead, and plan and make as much money as possible, but if you're not happy, is it really worth it when you turn 90 and realise you haven't done anything you wanted in your sad, drawn out, boring, working life?
Find what you love and let it take you away and guide you through the darkness, no matter what the outcome!

I know that they say "Happiness isn't a destination, it's a journey": but it is hard to begin the journey when you have no destination in mind.
It's always nice to have a vague idea of where we are headed, so that we can steer ourselves in that direction, and yes of course, enjoy the ride on the way.

& remember, whatever imaginary vehicle or mode of transport is taking you to your destination/goal, be it a flying unicorn, a monster truck, a magic carpet or a donkey; You can always change its course or turn it around, no matter how far into it you are.

So don't rely on a map, use your heart as a compass and let it guide you.
#realcheesytalk

Feeling Lost?

Let me start by saying, we all get a little lost sometimes... (cue inspirational music)

I think the transition from high school to adulthood is one of the most scary and confusing times of our lives, and when we are almost certainly prone to get lost.
There are a lot of people who feel like they're wasting their lives because they have no idea what they want to do with them, and feel as if they're sitting around waiting for something to happen.
There's a sort of limbo time, usually used to find ourselves, I suppose, and to establish ourselves as humans or adults or even just people who know who they are and what they're doing.
But it can be tough, especially in todays society, when there are so many options and choices.
We all strive to be successful and achieve our goals and dreams- but it's always hard to start.
Where do you start?

If you're an optimist, let's go with one of my favourite pieces of advice I've ever been offered:
"Do with your life, what you would do, if you knew you couldn't fail"
That hobby you enjoy so much, that hidden talent you love to whip out, that thing that you are SO passionate about? Find out how you can incorporate them into a financially viable career.
Do what you love and follow your heart and make it great and share it with the world!!
I know that sometimes, mixing your passions with your job can take the fun out of it.
& if you think this might be the case, then go with a second option- something you enjoy enough that you would be happy doing it everyday, but something that you don't love too much so you that you wouldn't end up hating it- & keep your passion for a hobby on the side!

If you're a pessimist.... it's a little more depressing (obviously):
For starters, you should know what you're good at, Or- "FAKE IT TILL YOU MAKE IT"
If you're looking for financial stability or extreme wealth, then you need to find the highest paying job that you are eligible for with whatever skills or talents you may have.
If you're a lazy slob who mainly sits at home watching tv marathons day after day, then you won't have too many on that list, but as a pessimist, you've probably already worked that out.
SO, what are you good for? NOT absolutely nothing! There's always prostitution- although after all those tv marathons (and i'm assuming pizza) you're not going to have the hottest bod.

But BACK TO THE POINT...
Everyone has that moment of sighing, looking into space and thinking:
"WHAT THE HELL AM I DOING WITH MY LIFE?"
Even adults- I shit you not.
Everyone gets comfortable in their daily lives, and if you're not already working towards a future plan or career, then you probably look into the future sometimes and stress- I know I do.
But you shouldn't- and that's the truth.
I know numerous 30 year olds who STILL haven't got their shit together & still don't know what they want to do with their lives.
The fact is, you should do what you enjoy, and sure you can plan a great future with a high paying job that you may love or hate, or base it purely off enjoyment and passion- either way you do NOT have to know right this minute- because living in the moment can be equally as rewarding...
You never know what's just around the corner, and might jump out at you unexpectedly (hopefully it's not a rapist or murderer- if you're worried about these possibilities, maybe carry a rape whistle and some pepper spray).
But sometimes you need to feel lost, and confused, so that you might stumble across the right path to lead you to where you want to go (corney as all hell, I know).

I just think that our generation gets so caught up in the pressures of being successful, and are overwhelmed with all the job possibilities, which isn't to say we aren't grateful for all the opportunities we are presented with- simply that we are conflicted between our heads and our hearts.
We want to do what we love and follow our dreams, but we also feel the need to make smart, financially viable choices, that will set us up for 'safe' futures.
But in the wise words of Jim Carey:

"You can fail at what you don't want, so you might as well take a chance on what you love"

(see inspirational video here)